End of the semester, end of the year
After a week of non-stop grading, I posted my final grades two days ago. Coming out of the Grading Cave, I looked around me and realized not only is it the end of the semester (thank goodness!), it’s the end of the year too. It’s the holiday season, the shopping season, the season of family (in all its good and bad), and after all that, the season of renewal and resolution with the New Year.
It’s also Jane Austen’s birthday (yesterday). She’s 234 years young this year. Her characters are still falling in love all over the world, in many different ways, in books, and on film and stage, but now they’re also fighting zombies and sea-monsters, traveling through time, and saving the world.
It is a misnomer to say that the Jane Austen industry is as strong as ever. I think it is as strong as it has ever been, gathering momentum as it sweeps all before it into its wake (I think I’m mixing my metaphors, but you get the point).
It’s an industry based in fascination with a mysterious genius with a seemingly mundane life. It’s easy to see the Bronte sisters writing Jane Eyre and Wuthering Heights, knowing what we do about their childhoods. But people have wondered for two centuries how a reclusive spinster could write such perfect tales of romance and self-discovery.
It’s an industry based on nostalgia for a time that seems both so close to our own and yet so perfectly far away that we can recognize in it the good and happily ignore the bad. There is no Dickens of the time, warning us of the devastating effects of industrialization and the crushing poverty of child factory workers. There are no wars to mar the horizon, no strange fashions to mark the difference with their tiny waists and huge wigs. Simplicity ruled the day, and pastoral idylls seemed more to be expected than not.
But above all, and rightly so, it is an industry based on six books that reveal the world as we all experience it, no matter the century: through our relationships with others. Annoying mother? Slutty sister? Obsequious neighbor? Tall, dark,and arrogant hunk? Jane Austen has them all and we can recognize ourselves and our world in her characters, proving that people are people are people.
Celebrate the birth of one of the greatest writers of our time. Take the time to sit down and read your favorite Austen novel again, or just skim through the good bits, or try one if you’ve never read one at all (I recommend Pride and Prejudice or Persuasion). And then, if you’re feeling scholarly, hop on over to Persuasions: The Jane Austen Journal Online and see what the scholars have to say about her books. Some of them (::coff::coff) even compare her novels to modern romance novels.
Happy Birthday (one day late!), Jane!
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Going Rouge: Makeup and the Heroine (and Hero)
My RtB bio says I started reading romance in 2007, but that’s not really true. I actually read a bunch of romance, at age 13, in 1982, when I had mono, and my harried mother brought home an unvetted pile of romance novels to help me get through a couple of weeks of bed rest (she’s not a romance reader). I remember two things really clearly from those books. In one of them, an antebellum romance, a Southern belle got splinters from being backed into a fence post and ravished by the hero. That sexual intercourse might cause splinters was a new and frightening idea. The second thing was heroine makeup. The heroines, at least in the contemporaries I read, looked great with just a bit of mascara, lip gloss, and a barrette. And this fact was often remarked upon by the hero, who compared her favorably to other women of his acquaintance, who piled it on. This idea of “nearly natural beauty” served as a kind of ideal for me in my early teen years.
I haven’t read any romances that feature butt splinters lately, but the naturally lovely heroine is still with us, especially in romances set in contemporary times, whether straight contemps or romantic suspense or erotic romance. It’s not that heroines don’t wear makeup — the romantic suspense novel I read recently that featured a heroine on the run who left her hiding place to buy foundation springs to mind — but there seems to be a happy medium, a kind of virtuous amount, that many authors have settled on. The makeup free female character is often portrayed as asexual or unappealingly lazy, while the Tammy Faye Bakers, often in real or imagined competition with the heroine for the hero’s attention, are demonized for their vanity and superficiality. Not their looks per se, but what heroines do with their looks is often used to convey important things about their characters.
Feminists have had a complex relationship with women’s makeup in the past 25 years. When I started teaching women’s studies over a decade ago, it was common to contrast the time and money average women in the US spent on cosmetics with the much cheaper and easier male regimen. Add that to the social disapproval and materially worse career prospects for the woman who has “let herself go” or “isn’t making any effort”, and you didn’t have a hard time arguing that the cosmetics industry wasn’t really a friend to women. When makeup’s defenders protested that makeup application was an artistic means of individual expression, many feminists responded, quite reasonably, that the purpose of makeup — except when Lady Gaga is wearing it — is to make all women look the same, according to the beauty ideal of the times. Other feminist voices were more pragmatic, acknowledging that while in an ideal world of gender equity, women would feel no more naked than men without their lipstick, we live in this world, and if women need lip gloss to feel confident, or if they recognize they need it (but not too much of it) to be taken seriously by a potential employer, then so be it.
I’ve been in the online romance community long enough to know that many here think romance novels, because they are written by women for women, and published by companies in which women have important positions, are empowering, even “subversive.” A lot of these arguments could be applied to the cosmetics industry itself. Think of Estee Lauder, Mary Kay, Elizabeth Arden, Helena Rubinstein. I’m not sure how far I can push this, but those cosmetics pioneers helped change the perception, common in the first half of the twentieth century, that makeup was for whores, just as romance writers and readers (while often buying into myths about women who wear a lot of makeup) often rejected the idea that a woman embracing her sexuality was a whore. And, just like romance novels, makeup rituals can serve to create community among women: moms teach their daughters about makeup (sometimes, not to wear it at all, of course), women shop together for makeup, share makeup tips, and trade makeup.
A whole new wrinkle, one I don’t have the space to explore, is men and makeup. Those stark contrasts between the rigors of male and female beauty regimens no longer hold. Men, with their own cosmetics lines, are catching up. Is there a similar “golden mean of makeup” in romance novels for heroes? I’m thinking romance novels are a bit behind the times on this point. When’s the last time you read a hero, as opposed to some vain rival for the heroine’s affections, applying brow gel, concealer, or oil absorbing face powder? Would a romance work for you that had the hero and heroine sharing kohl eyeliner?
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Guide To Healthy Relationships – Do You Know 5 Kinds Of Tribes We Form?
All people form tribes. Each tribe has a different culture and outlook on life. Discover the 5 types of tribes that we form and the ways your tribe can limit you or help you regain your natural state of joy.
What are the 5 tribes we form?
During a taped speech before TED (a group that presents ideas worth sharing), a USC Business School Professor named Dr. David Logan explained the 5 tribes we form–based on our outlook on life. Here is my summary:
Stage 1 Tribes share the “Life Sucks” mentality of gangs and prison inmates.
They are united in despair, hostility and limiting beliefs. Dr. Logan says 3% of tribes are Stage 1.
Stage 2 Tribes share the “My Life Sucks” outlook you see in unhappy crowds at the DMV.
They resemble a crowd of “dummies” but they can be smart individuals. 25% of tribes are Stage 2.
Stage 3 Tribes share the “I’m great and you’re not” view of narcissists.
I’ll compete against you and win is their one-up-manship mentality. 48% of tribes are Stage 3.
Stage 4 Tribes believe “It’s good to be a little weird”.
They value creativity and causes larger than their individual existence. 22% of tribes are Stage 4.
Stage 5 Tribes know that “Life is Great” and they use this outlook to change the world.
They may attract thousands to join a noble cause. They connect with members of all the other tribes so they can unite them around these values. 2% of tribes are Stage 5.
Dr. Logan states that tribes can only nudge forward by one stage or level of awareness at a time.
I disagree. Medical research is proving the natural resilience of our brain. We’ve read or witnessed the power of the human spirit to triumph over adversity and every form of negativity.
If Stage 1 and 2 Tribes can only nudge toward the “I’m great and you’re not” narcissistic view common in Stage 3 Tribes, is that progress?
I often tell my online community that each of us can flip our thought switch from darkness to light.
We may need a guide to show us our thought switch and how to use it.
We may need a nudge of biofeedback or other energetic healing modalities to break negative, limiting thought patterns and behavior.
We may need these new tools and choices to help us experience our natural state of joy.
We’re all born with the “Life Is Great” spirit. The secret is to keep it alive–or to revive it with a little nudge from the tribe with the resilient optimism that is contagious because it is a return to our natural state.
And if you’re single and seeking a “Life Is Great” tribe of singles, then I invite you to enjoy a free months membership in the singles club in Tribe Of Blondes.
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After Divorce – Are You Making 3 Avoidable Mistakes In A New Sexual Relationship?
If you’ve enjoyed an active sexual relationship during your marriage, then divorce can present a harsh reality. You need to find a new sexual partner or face a carnal fast.
Medical studies have confirmed major health and longevity benefits of staying sexually active with your life partner.
I’ve told my online community about an apiarian lifestyle that is based on a belief that the fountain of youth springs from eating bee products and enjoying sexual intimacy with your partner every day. The latter is difficult to achieve soon after a divorce, unless you’re lucky to get all cylinders firing in a new sexual relationship.
Discover 3 avoidable mistakes that newly single men and women often make when they introduce sex into a new dating relationship.
Mistake #1: Leaping from one committed relationship into another
If you’ve been in a long-term relationship, you may know how to love but not how to date. You may use your sexual energy to express love, and you assume your date feels and acts the same way. What if your date knows how to date but not how to love?
What to do instead:
Never assume what sex means to your partner. Ask them, before you engage. Then decide if your desires and vision for your intimate relationship are compatible.
If one of you desires a casual fling and one desires a forever love match, you may question whether your fleeting pleasure is worth the pain of your likely break up when your relationship goals clash.
Mistake Number 2: Hiding your real views of what you’re seeking in a sexual relationship
You may sense your date wouldn’t get involved with you if you were honest about wanting a casual sexual connection. So you tell them what they want to hear to get what you want. Then you move on for greener trails, as planned.
What to do instead:
Be honest about your desires and goals for your potential sexual relationship before you have sex. This frees your potential partner to be honest about their desires.
Your decision to move forward or part will support the best interests of each partner. It’s how you live and love with honor.
Mistake Number 3: Being careless about safe sex
You may not have needed protected sex in your long-term relationship.
After your break up, you bring that sense of security into your new sexual relationship.
You assume a single person is free of Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) unless they look sick or weak.
You believe a date who says they’ve only dated a couple people since their break up.
What to do instead:
Before choosing a new sex partner, take their sexual history and share yours.
Ask if they’ve ever had any STDs, including genital warts. This virus (HPV) is now thought to cause not only cancer of cervix but cancers of throat and mouth in people who engage in oral sex. If they’re HPV positive, ask if they’ve been treated.
Ask if they’re been tested for HIV in past six months, which is the amount of time it takes from infection to detection of this virus in tests.
Ask your partner’s sexual history since their HIV and STD tests or treatment.
Ask the sexual history of their partners, since they can unwittingly spread STDs from their infected partners without showing any symptoms.
Get a mutual agreement to use a condom. Any resistance is a sign of a selfish or reckless sexual partner. Are those traits you desire in a sexual partner?
After you ask these questions and weigh the answers, check out your gut feeling before you agree to have sex. This helps you make a conscious decision whether it’s in your best interests to start a new sexual relationship.
And if you’re single and seeking your great love match, I invite you to enjoy a free, 30-day trial membership in the Singles Club in Tribe Of Blondes.
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Dedicated to your dating and relationship happiness,
Hadley Finch
Your Guide to Healthy Relationships – Are You Or Your Romantic Partner Too Narcissistic to Love?
I often tell my online community that healthy self love is a love magnet that attracts more love into your life. This positive quality taken to its extreme is a disorder known as narcissism, and it is a big block to a loving relationship. Find out if you or your partner are too narcissistic to love, and what you can do about that.
What is a narcissist?
The term is based on the Greek myth of Narcissus, a handsome young man goes off to find his perfect love match. He rejects the love of a beautiful nymph, Echo, who fades away. When Narcissus sees his own refection in a stream, he falls in love with his own image and gazes at it until he dies.
The myth of Narcissus reveals the tragedy of self-admiration which leaves you unable to connect with anyone outside of yourself. You often hurt the people you reject the way Narcissus hurt Echo.
How do you know if you are a narcissist?
A narcissist typically exhibits these personality traits:
You have an overly positive, inflated view of yourself.
You see yourself as better than others in social status, good looks, intelligence, creativity and success.
You do not value relationships.
You lack emotionally warm, caring and loving relationships with other people.
You let people into your life who express admiration for you and support your grandiose view of yourself.
You may rage against people who criticize you or do not show their admiration.
You experience a breakdown in most relationships because they lack emotional depth.
Can a narcissist ever be in a loving relationship?
In the book, The Narcissism Epidemic — Living in the Age of Entitlement, authors Jean M. Twenge and W. Keith Campbell say that you can like yourself just fine without loving yourself to excess.
The authors suggest that narcissists make these changes in outlook and actions in order to make loving connections:
* Change your focus from self-feelings and focus on life — your relationships with others, your work, natural beauty.
* Think about the deepest joy you experience in life–it doesn’t typically come from thinking about how great you are. Instead it comes from connecting with the world and getting away from yourself. As when you enjoy time with friends, family, and children, are engaged at work, or do all-absorbing tasks such as art, writing, crafts, athletics, or helping others.
Would a narcissist become less successful after making these changes?
The authors point out the difference between a narcissist like Donald Trump who placards his name whenever possible, and many successful CEOs–who live a low-profile life, never rest on their laurels and continuously work to improve themselves, their companies and their relationships.
What if you see narcissistic tendencies in yourself or your romantic partner?
Exaggerated self love will block a narcissist from experiencing a loving, multi-dimensional relationship, since they tend to equate worship with love. This is why a marriage or dating relationship with a narcissist often feels like a one-sided relationship.
Before you commit to this relationship, I suggest that you ask yourself if you are willing to sacrifice a deep, mutual sharing of love to be involved with a confirmed narcissist.
And if you’re single and seeking to meet your love match, I invite you to enjoy a free month membership in the Singles Club Of Tribe Of Blondes. Not a hair color, it’s a resilient, optimistic spirit that unites us and fuels our passionate choices and personal triumphs.
Start meeting savvy singles through video chats, book discussions, special events and travel vacations. Claim your free, 30-day trial membership now. Simply click on SINGLES CLUB in the menu bar and sign up. Enjoy!
Dedicated to your dating and relationship happiness,
Hadley Finch
Pow Wow Shows Episode 12 – What’s The Common Mistake Singles Make On Internet Dating Sites?
Find out the common mistake singles make on internet dating sites. And learn how common courtesy could improve
the online dating experience for everyone.
Attraction Versus Love – Can You Turn Dating Drama Into Emotional Intimacy With 3 Love Tips?
Going out with hot dates who offer big dramas with little contentment is a form of directionless, dead-end dating. Would you like to try a new dating direction that leads you to a loving relationship? Learn how to turn dating drama into emotional intimacy as a prelude to a loving relationship with 3 simple Love Tips:
1. See Attraction With New Eyes
Big attraction comes with big love lessons attached like a bow. Look for the love lesson in the dating dramas that you consistently attract. And ask your self an important question:
Does your drama date have any personality traits of your early caregivers?
If their drama seems familiar, you may have been attracted to your drama date in order to return to the scene of your original childhood hurt and frustration.
According to dating theory formed by renowned psychologist, Harville Hendrix Ph.d, this type of romantic attraction stems from our search for “imago” — a Latin word meaning, image. Your imago is composed of pictures of people who influenced your life most strongly in your early years. When you face your childhood challenges as an adult with a person who triggers unhealed feelings and patterns, you give yourself an opportunity to heal old wounds.
I often tell my online community that when you learn this love lesson and take action on its healing insights, the attraction has fulfilled its purpose. Now you don’t have to keep repeating the same lesson by attracting the same type of drama date into your life, unless you want to.
2. See Dating As A Path To Personal Growth
You are what you are aware of. Like attracts like. This means every quality or quirk that you notice in a date reflects parts of you that can be savored or strengthened.
If you notice a personality quirk that you don’t like, you can feel thankful that your date revealed where your personality or behavior could use a tune up.
With this outlook, each date may help you grow as a person — to strengthen your strengths so your weaknesses lose power, deepen your intelligence and open your heart to genuine love.
3. See With Your Heart As You Choose Your Best Love Match
Beware of superficial wrapping, because the genuine gift lies within.
What inner gifts are an essential foundation for a loving relationship?
A healthy, adult personality
Freedom to trust
Ability to know and be known, to give and receive love
Healthy self love, self esteem, self knowledge
A kind heart, freely sharing of acts of kindness
Personal autonomy and living within means
Reaching for dreams with solid action each day
A resilient optimism and passion for life
An inner goodness that moves you to love
Once you see and share these inner gifts with a potential love match, you will experience a quiet drama of two adults moving closer to oneness based on shared vision and values, emotional intimacy, and enthusiasm for life and love. This emotional intimacy a prelude to a loving relationship.
And if you’re single and seeking to meet your great love, I invite you to enjoy a free month membership in the Singles Club Of Tribe Of Blondes. Not a hair color, it’s a resilient, optimistic spirit that unites us and fuels our passionate choices and personal triumphs.
Start meeting savvy singles in video chats, TelePowWows and travel vacations. Claim your free, 30-day trial membership now. Simply Click SINGLES CLUB at the top of this page. Enjoy!
Dedicated to your dating and relationship happiness,
Hadley Finch
Destined For An Early Grave
The Bite Stuff
by Jeaniene Frost
As the author of a vampire series, I’m frequently asked, “Why did you choose to write about vampires, Jeaniene?” Sometimes, that question will be followed up with a comment about the market. Like, “Vampires are hot now, so good choice,” or “There are too many vampire books. You should try something else before the bubble bursts.”
The truth is that I never considered the market when I started my first book. I’ve been a vampire fan since all the way back to childhood, when I rooted for Dracula to win over Van Helsing (much to the dismay of my parents, who couldn’t understand why I wanted the villain to triumph. 
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A favorite vampire movie back from my early years was LOVE AT FIRST BITE, the first one I’d seen that didn’t show the vampire as inherently evil–and he even got the girl in the end! So, from an early age, I’ve been a fan of the fanged ones. When I finally quit procrastinating and began to write, it was no surprise to me (or my parents) that my story revolved around vampires, or that my heroine was half-vampire.
Fast forward a year. I’d completed three books and had started the fourth when I decided to shop that first novel. After all, it was gently pointed out to me that if I couldn’t sell book one in the series, books two or three didn’t have a chance. With a lot of ignorance about the process, I started looking for an agent or a publisher.
Fast forward two years filled with rejection and revising until, at last, my dream was realized: I’d sold a book! Not just one book, either, but two. It was a scant couple weeks afterward that I heard the first rumbling concerning vampires in the market. A smaller publisher I’d sent my novel to prior to selling got back to me with a rejection that said, in summary, vampire books weren’t selling anymore. It was June 2006.
Still caught up in my glee over my new deal, I didn’t think anything about that. Then, a couple months later, I set up a blog and began venturing into the online world of reading and writing groups. Once there, I was shocked at the almost universal response I received when I told people my upcoming book was a vampire novel–they said it wouldn’t do well because readers were sick of vampire books. Over and over, I heard the same ominous prediction that no vampire novel could prosper in this market.
The next fifteen months, as my book went through the stages of publication, were nerve-wracking, to say the least. I heard so many negative comments about the market for vampires that I was resigned to failure, but still kept working on my series, because vampires were still the creature I loved to write about. Then the strangest thing happened: Avon bought two more books in the series.
Right after that, my first book–HALFWAY TO THE GRAVE–released and hit the bestseller lists. Other vampire authors experienced success as well–sometimes, amazing success. It seemed vampires weren’t dead in the market after all! In fact, in 2007 and 2008, vampire sales took huge bites out of the fiction pie (or throat, to be more on topic ).
Now, more than halfway through 2009, some people congratulate me on my “smartness” in writing a vampire series. This makes me laugh, considering all the tidings of doom I heard before my first book came out. Soon, I’m sure, the perception of the market will swing the other way and fangs will be considered persona non grata again. Will I still be writing vampire books? As long as my characters still demand to have their stories told, you bet I will. Trends may come and go–or be perceived to have come and gone–but loving what you do will always be in style.
DESTINED FOR AN EALY GRAVE, book four in the Night Huntress series featuring half-vampire Cat Crawfield and her undead lover, Bones, hits the shelves on Tuesday. I’m so thankful to all the readers who’ve journeyed with Cat in the series, and I hope they enjoy what comes next for her and Bones. To learn more about the vampires in my books, or to read the first 20% of each book in the series, please visit my website at www.jeanienefrost.com.
Buying Romance Novels…Passion or Addiction?
Hi, my name is Barbara, and I am addicted to romance novels.
When I began reading romance–some twelve or so years ago—I had never heard of such a thing as a TBR pile. What the heck is TBR anyway?
Sure, like most avid readers, I had a book or two that would be sitting on my nightstand, patiently waiting to be cracked open. But, by no means did I ever have what one might consider a “pile”.
From day one, I always loved browsing the bookstore looking for the newest releases, and even spending a few minutes simply admiring beautiful cover art. Let’s face it; romance novels have some of the best cover art out there. Okay, okay, they also have some of the worst, but we’ll save that for another post.
Anyhow, those bi-weekly trips I made to the bookstore had been—and still are—my escape. They are my relaxation. You all know what I mean. I’m talking about that hour or so where you don’t have to worry about work, or cleaning or anything even remotely stressful. Dinner? Kids? What kids? Oh, no, no, no, during that time as you wandered along the aisles aimlessly, your sole purpose in life is to find that one book that will completely knock your socks off.
However, as the years past, and I began making more frequent trips to my local B&N, I began to notice a change in my shopping habits. Although I knew full well there was no way I could read more than four books a week, I found myself irresistibly drawn into purchasing more and more. I may have gone into the store looking for a historical romance, but gosh darn it, that new paranormal looks pretty good if you ask me. How could I possibly pass it up? Besides, what if it was “the book”? Ha! I’d be a fool not to grab it. In to the shopping bag it goes.
Oh, and of course, let’s not forget that GORGEOUS cover that goes along with that new contemporary release. Ugh, there’s no way I could leave that one behind, either. In to the shopping bag it went.
Before long, those two or three books that had once been waiting patiently on my nightstand suddenly began to grow. And grow. And grow, until before long, I found myself knee deep it what I now know to be the dreaded…*queue scary music* “TBR”.
So here I am many years later, and as of now I have not two, not three, but 300 books waiting to be read. Does that stop me from buying more? Nope.
Thanks to the online blogging/reading community, I now know I’m not alone in this. It seems to me that the majority of romance readers are in same boat as I am. They simply can’t turn down the chance that a book will rock.
I’ll admit that in those rare moments of guilt—often after charging an obscene amount of money on my credit card—I will find myself trying to validate my reasons for spending so much. I have a cousin who will spend any amount on shoes. Why? She absolutely loves shoes. It’s her “thing”.
My “thing” is books. I LOVE BOOKS. Is that really so bad?
But, then I wonder, when is too much, too much?
So here is my question, and one that I’ve asked myself over and over: Are we buying so many books because it’s truly our passion, or could our love of “happily ever after” have possibly become addiction?
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Romantic Rescue – Do You Know How To “Reboot” Your Love Life With 3 Love Tips?
If you’re blissfully happy in your romantic relationship, you’re on the right track–so carry on. If you feel off track or stuck in a dead-end dating or relationship rut, you can change course and start fresh. Find out how to press the reset button and reboot your love life now.
How do you “reboot” your love life?
You can make better choices that attract your great love and spark a lasting Fire of Love in your romantic relationship.
It’s not quite as simple as pressing a Reset Button on your computer. Yet you can start fresh in your dating life or rescue a romantic relationship when you use these 3 Love Tips:
1. Fall In Love Again, With Yourself
Rebirth comes from tears you’ve cried
Sleeping dreams can be revived
You can become what you might have been
Once you fall in love with yourself again –In Love Again
The song, “In Love Again”, reminds you to grow from life’s sorrows and challenges, to revive your dreams and become your best you, to know and love the wonders of you. That’s when you are free to love someone truly, freely and deeply.
2. Strengthen Your Strengths
Take a personal inventory of your best qualities, core values, special talents, loving actions that you bring to a relationship.
Know that your dominant vibration always wins. So rev up your good qualities and send out good vibrations that will attract your great love and spark lasting love in a relationship. In doing so, any weakness loses importance.
3. Connect in Romantic Ways
If you’re single, you can add a spirit of romance to your quest to meet your great love. Speak from your heart and core values when you write your online dating profile, in casual conversations with potential love matches, and when you meet your great love.
You will spark the fire of love in a new or existing relationship when you plan weekly dates that add fun and increase intimacy with your partner.
Special dates don’t have to cost a dime, if you’re creative. I created the Love List Game: Holding your partner’s gaze and speaking tenderly, take turns saying one thing that you love best about your beloved. Hopefully, you’ll have a long list of loving attributes that inspire greater feelings of love. Clothing is optional as you play the Love List Game.
Add tender moments to spark up your daily connection with your partner. A lovely ritual that bonds and relaxes a couple is to sit at either ends of a couch while you massage each others feet and share news of your day.
Will you use these 3 Love Tips to start fresh and spark the Fire Of Love in your romantic relationship?
And if you’re single and seeking your great love, I invite you to enjoy a free, one-month membership in the Singles Club of Tribe Of Blondes. Not a hair color, it’s a resilient optimism that unites us and fuels our passionate choices and personal triumphs.
Start meeting savvy singles in video chats, book discussions, social events and travel vacations. Claim your free, 30-day trial membership now. Click on SINGLES CLUB at the top of this page. Enjoy!
Dedicated to your dating and relationship happiness,
Hadley Finch
