Dating Q & A – When Is A Player Free To Meet Your Best Match?
Dating Question:
In 5 years of being single since my divorce, I’ve enjoyed a string of romances. My latest encounter just got racheted up a level, yet it’s still early. I’m used to great startups and bad breakups, but I may want to break that cycle. Not because of the woman I’m dating.
I just met a woman on a dating site, and I can’t get her off of my mind. We’ve written and talked on the phone. We each have creative careers and common experience in raising our children as a single parent. We like each other and want to meet in person.
When I offered to fly to meet her, I made the mistake of telling her I was seeing someone else.
Now she won’t meet me until I’m single and available. Isn’t that unrealistic and overly demanding? I’d normally disconnect, but she just might be my best match. She’ll get snapped up fast. Got any dating advice for me?
Conflicted in Connecticut
Dating Answer:
You are conflicted because you’re intrigued by two women at once. But you’re already involved with one. And you may have met the one you don’t want to lose.
Is it unrealistic to request that you are single and emotionally available before you meet a potential match?
Absolutely not. Distracted focus destroys possibilities in any relationship. So does conflicted dating goals.
If you’re dating to meet your best match, you won’t waste your time meeting singles who enjoy a string of “encounters.” You sort through these “Players” and meet singles who share your dating goals.
If you want to meet this new woman, are you willing to free yourself from your current “encounter”?
If you’re not ready or willing to do this, then you aren’t free to meet your best match.
How would you feel if you missed your chance to meet?
Trust your feelings and choose wisely.
Let me know what you decide.
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Guide To Healthy Relationships – How Does A Tribe Value Success And Love?
I often tell the Tribe of Blondes that it’s not a hair color but a resilient, optimistic spirit that unites us and fuels our adventures. In that spirit, the Southern Ute Tribe has married environmental optimism and American capitalistic ambition to develop a new business and biofuel. Find out how you may benefit from the way this Tribe values success and love.
How does a Tribe align its values with its investments?
By making decisions now that make life better for us and future generations. Compare those tribal values with most businesses, which worry only about bottom line for the next quarter.
Our children’s children may reap benefits from the success of a business venture between the Southern Ute Indian Tribe in Southwest Colorado and a local Professor who have combined resources to create a renewable energy source through a start up company named Solix Biofuels.
The New York Times reported that Solix has twin goals of making fuel from algae and reducing emissions of heat-trapping gasses.
Solix Co-founder is Colorado State University Professor Bryan Wilson, who introduced a strain of algae that loves carbon dioxide (CO2) into a water tank placed next to a natural gas processing plant that emits CO2.
This neighborly placement of the algae tank is designed for access to the CO2 waste stream which will be used to nourish the Solix algae. It’s a kind of biological recycling of CO2 before its discharge into the atmosphere as the vegetable fuel is burned.
What are other potential benefits of this business venture?
The gas-processing plant also produces waste heat which can be used to warm the neighboring algae beds in winter.
Another benefit of the Solix placement in the high desert plateau of southwest Colorado is it’s one of the sunniest spots in the nation, providing solar radiation that accelerates algae growth.
To Southern Ute tribal leaders, this business model is about more than business. “It’s a marriage of an older way of thinking into a modern time,” said tribe Chairman, Matthew J. Box, referring to the interplay between environmental consciousness and investment opportunity around algae.
Mr. Box told the NY Times that his 1,400 member Tribe has a long history of using herbal medicine–which made growing algae for fuel an appealing investment that is aligned with tribal values.
How much did they invest in this biofuel business?
The Tribe contributed almost a third of the $20 million in captial raised by Solix, plus free use of tribal land for the project and over $1 million in equipment. The Tribe views it as a long-term investment that could be the next billion dollar energy boom.
How will the Solix business model be a success?
The hope is that power plants and other types of factories that vent carbon dioxide will allow Solix to build an algae farm next to their carbon dioxide vent pipes.
The plant could then sell the oil or biodiesel fuel created as the algae eats the CO2.
And Solix would earn its return by being part owner and operator or by licensing the technology, possibly on a commercial scale throughout the Western United States.
What about their competition?
More than 200 other companies (including Exxon oil) are trying to find a cost effective way to achieve the same goal of turning algae into vegetable oil fuel, according to the National Renewable Energy Lab in Golden, Colorado.
A Lab manager, Al Darzins, said that the Solix method is different from most–in the vertical alignment of algae in water tanks to increase yield. Mr. Darzins said that the success of this interesting idea will depend on whether it works at what cost. “It’s all going to come down to the economics.”
What’s the payoff for the Tribe’s aligning its values with it’s investments?
Southern Utes is one of the nation’s wealthiest communities of American Indians thanks to its energy and real estate investments. It’s debt has received the highest “AAA” rating, assigned by Karl Jacob, the Standard & Poors executive.
Jacobs said the Tribe had proved a canny investor by doing its homework and not moving too fast. He concluded, “They have always been prudent, looking out into the next generation.”
Do you align your values with your investment choices?
How could the Tribe Of Singles model these values while choosing a romantic partner and creating a healthy relationship with lasting love?
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Your Guide To Healthy Relationships – Do You Know 9 Secrets Of A Long, Happy Life?
Author and adventurer, Dan Buettner, studied the world’s healthiest centenarians and identified 9 common practices that seem to aid in extreme longevity. He calls these practices “The Power Nine,” or the nine rules any person can follow in the hopes of emulating the world’s longest-living humans he studied in Sardinia, Okinawa, Costa Rica, and Loma Linda, California.
I’ve summarized Dan Buettner’s findings, which were reported in National Geographic Adventurer Magazine, so that you can use these secrets to raise your life expectancy and reach your peak of happiness.
The Power Nine: Secrets of long life from the world’s healthiest humans
1. Move: Find ways to stay active
Walking briskly each day promotes greater health and less long-term damage to your body than vigorous running or impact exercises which can cause chronic inflammation.
2. Plan de Vida: Discover your purpose in life
Take time to know what your values are and act out of those values each day. These are two important ingredients in the formula for happiness. We have measurable proof that happier people live longer than unhappy people.
3. Downshift: Take a break
Set aside time each day in which you de-stress in your favorite healthy way.
4. 80% Rule: Don’t overeat
In Okinawa they say hara hachi bu, which means eat until you are 80 percent full. How can you consciously cut out 20 percent of your calories? For one thing, eat off of lunch-size plate at dinner—as Okinawans do.
5. Plant Power: Choose greens
Learn how to prepare plant-based meals, only adding meat or fish a couple times each week.
Plant and care for your own garden, to organically nourish and exercise your body, mind, spirit as you tend to your garden each day.
6. Red Wine: A glass a day
A Sardinian red wine has triple the antioxidants of other known wines. Many Sardinians drink their red wine daily and enjoy healthy lives past age ninety.
7. Belong: Stay social
Stay connected with family and friends during meals or daily activities.
8. Beliefs: Get ritualistic
A weekly walk in nature with friends is a ritual that promotes health and builds community.
9. Your Tribe: Choose wisely
Cut out the toxic people in your life and spend time and effort augmenting your social circle with people who have the right values and a healthy lifestyle.
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Your Love Guide – What’s Wrong With Giving Your All In A Romantic Relationship?
When you are the accelerator in a romantic relationship, you move forward as a couple because of your endless efforts. Learn what’s wrong with constantly giving your all to your partner. And find out how to shift the focus and let your partner accelerate progress in your love life.
What is a relationship accelerator?
A man or woman may become the driving force who sets the pace and progress in a romantic relationship. If you make most of the plans and initiate contact and physical intimacy, you are a relationship accelerator who gives your all to move your relationship forward.
What’s wrong with giving your all in a relationship?
A good relationship balances giving and receiving between partners. Giving your all without receiving similar enthusiasm, focus or support is a one-sided relationship. It’s as lopsided as one-sided communication, where one partner is doing all the talking or all the listening.
If you are consistently giving your all to promote the progress in your relationship, you may not be good at receiving. Or you may fear that your partner would end the relationship if you stopped giving your all.
If you’re a giver, how do you gain a new balance between give and take?
A giver can learn to receive.
Start by accepting compliments, instead of deflecting them.
Permit yourself to ask for a favor, often–until you feel comfortable asking for help and expressing thanks.
Accept an act of kindness without feeling you owe a big debt or bigger favor in return.
Request a shift in a relationship pattern–Will you surprise me by planning our next date?
Take a close look at your strengths and the wonders of you, so that you see what others appreciate in you.
What if your partner doesn’t like this change?
Your partner in a romantic relationship may like to be spoiled by the giver in you.
If you ask them to give more in the relationship, they may put on the brakes and end things.
That’s good news, since a total receiver won’t nourish and support your best interests in a long-term relationship.
Moving on will free you to meet a love match who wants to know and be known, love and be loved, give and receive in balanced efforts to create a healthy romantic relationship.
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